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The difference between a genuine apology and a non-apology.

A non-apology goes like this:

  1. Gaslight: “I'm sorry you feel that way.”
  2. Explain: “There were (this, this and this) reasons why I did it.”
  3. Poke: “And anyway, look at YOU!”

A genuine apology goes like this:

  1. Acknowledge what you did: “I did this thing.” (Describe it as accurately as you can)
  2. Express remorse: “I'm sorry I did that.”
  3. Learn and change!

Voilà!

Sigh. Why did it take me 50 years to figure this out?

#Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticVoices #Neurodiversity #AutisticExperience #PowerDynamics #PowerAndControl #Accountability #EmotionalManipulation #Gaslighting

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Autistic people are famously fond of logic, and data. We’ve also repeatedly ‘failed’ in tests designed to evaluate our empathy. Tests which I found more interesting as a ‘spot the assumption’ exercise than serious research – or at least, serious research into what the studies professed to be about. I wrote a thread about it: https://mas.to/@KatyElphinstone/116070156336606549 ⬇️ #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AutismResearch #Empathy #AutisticThinking #CriticalPsychology #Logic #Reasoning #Neurodiversity #DoubleEmpathy
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Hannah Arendt spoke about the banality of evil. And how when studying evil in action, the evidence points to one thing. A rather unexpected thing. Not lack of empathy, or a fondness for logic. No, none of the above. The thing was so much simpler: a failure to think deeply! The greatest indicator of not committing evil acts, after all, is deep thinking. Perhaps the autistic tendency is actually simply towards being more *universally* empathetic... and less partisan. End of 🧵 #Neurodiversity #Fairness #StructuralInequality
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It's a bit like saying pacing back and forward within ten feet squared is a natural feature of a certain type of lioness, without taking into account the fact that she was kept in a cage that size for twenty years. 🐾 🔒 So... what about autism? ⬇️ 8/13 #Autism #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent
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This is interesting. As a self identified neurodivergent person I know that my sensory differences are a challenge when driving. I hate bright lights & am easily overwhelmed by sensory input. My poor proprioception means that in the car, as with my body, I don’t know where my edges are unless I can see them. Parking is really hard. I used to be ashamed of these difficulties. Now I recognise them as part of how I am, accept them & work within my limits. Never drive at night, avoid freeways, stick to places that are familiar or that I can learn details of in advance. Find easy spots to park. If there’s a passenger, no chat in the car. It’s ok. Most adults who are autistic don’t have a diagnosis. Meaningful research into driving & autism doesn’t exist yet. There’s lots of bad drivers out there, esp among those who’ve been driving for ages. I’d like to see regular retesting of knowledge & skills as a condition of keeping a drivers licence, for everyone. With frequency increasing with age. What do you folx think? #driving #safety #neurodiversity #autism #ActuallyAutistic
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#disability #disabled #UK #autism #autistic #ADHD #ND #NeuroDiversity #NeuroDivergent #access #Accessibility #EaseOfAccess
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The neuroaffirmative movement replaced one narrative with another. The old one said defective. The new one says pure. Neither contains a full person. New essay on why the purity myth denies autistic people their right to complexity, and why Jung’s shadow work applies to communities, not only to individuals. https://medium.com/@christian.gajewski/why-innocence-is-autism-advocacys-gentlest-cage-afe28af2b4cc #Autism #Neurodiversity #AuDHD #MentalHealth #Jung #actuallyautistic
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As a neurodivergent person I'm interested in taxonomy but as a dyslexic person I find it inconvenient that many taxa have unreadable names that differ from other taxa with just one letter. papilionoidea (butterflies) papilionidae (swallowtails) In this case its even two differences, but still it doesn't feel very inclusive to people with learning disabilities (or probably to most people I guess). #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #dyslexia #taxonomy #butterflies #inclusion
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♾️ 10 reasons why I like being autistic ♾️ Thanks to @astridpoot@mastodon.social, my thread has now become a beautiful and fully-illustrated zine! Share if you like what you see❤️ https://wise.astridpoot.nl/30-10-reasons-why-i-like-being-autistic/ 🥰 🥳 😎 🙏 #Autistic #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #ActuallyAutistic
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When I was a child visiting friends, I would tour every room of their apartment before I could sit down and play. I had no idea I was doing it. I just couldn't settle until I had a complete map. That pattern never went away. There's a documented phenomenon called intolerance of uncertainty: the autistic nervous system's difficulty tolerating absent information. Any gap in the map feels like a potential trapdoor. The scan runs continuously — not because something is wrong, but because the system needs more explicit data to feel oriented. The exhaustion isn't from interacting. It's from never switching off. 🧵 #autism #actuallyAutistic #neurodiversity @autistics@fedigroups.social
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